External validation for our internal perception of reality

Each of us has our own internal perception of reality - these over all perceptions are made up of our worldviews, our thoughtforms, and-- you guessed it-- our opinions.

One of the most ironic things to me is that in arguments, people seem to look down on others who consider the opponent's point of view or adopt the other person's POV temporarily. It is often said that these people are the ones who "lose" an argument.  This is ironic because the person who "loses" probably actually ends up gaining more.

Think about it-- people like to matter and feel like they have an influence, or a position, worth considering and understanding. So, when your opponent shows that interest and consideration of your POV during an argument, you usually end up appreciating and valuing that person a little more for doing so. This often brings good things. However, despite all the positive implications for doing this, it still seems so much more important to us to be seen as right, and people still like to pick apart and find holes in the arguments or claims of others.

What is it about people and being "right" that outshines our desire to grow as a person, or our drive to accept others by showing an interest in something they are clearly passionate about? Is our sense of pride that appealing to us? Because admitting that we could improve ourselves as people or could stand to grow or learn doesn't mean that we aren't already great people, or that we haven't grown.

Is it validation of one's perceived reality? Maybe.. And perhaps our cognitive dissonance in relation to the extreme black and white, this or that rhetoric in today's society is so strong that we are questioning our own validity, or even sanity, more than ever. This makes us feel stressed, angry, and threatened, and we seek that validation externally. If we all didn't feel the need to defend our own realities so hard, we likely wouldn't be as attached to bitterness, grudges and general hate because that feeling of insecurity wouldn't need to be so incessantly compensated for.*

The first thing we need in order to detach from the selfish imposition of the ego is, once again ironically, to believe in ourselves in a healthy, non narcissistic way.

*There are always extreme examples so please remember this and do not automatically take this to the far end.. happens a lot... it's that arguing thing. 😂

Breaking modern political feedback loops through a new system of psychological memetics

If we look ahead to prospective futures for purposes of caution, we can try and prepare ourselves for them. This is how we apply the lessons of our own personal evolution and become able to navigate situations that are similar to ones we have either experienced before, or things we think might happen. It becomes a survival mechanism that the ego implements in order to dodge pain, avoid danger and make life more convenient for ourselves -- these are all things that increase our base chance of survival. However, when we succumb to long-term anger and bitterness, it can become a double-edged sword and actually cause us to become stuck in a rut; in a loop which is difficult to escape from unless immense insight is reached and applied towards breaking the cycle. As the emotional response and provocation gets stronger, it makes the reality more likely to happen. This is always a risk, especially when anger and spite are motivators in the equation.

In today's political world, "pre-reacting" has been encouraged of us. When we talk about punching Nazis, we are foreseeing and expecting violence from them; we are responding to something that hasn't even happened yet in the specific instance we ourselves are experiencing and creating. Then, we are calling it our own personal gesture of defense for the good of the general picture, instead of what it becomes: offense. Not only that, but offense based upon the negative beliefs and things we ourselves have heard about a group of people. We are generalizing and averaging out all the characteristics we've been told about nazis, who they are as a group and what they believe in, and then taking it and applying it to our specific narrow situation which only includes a couple of individuals. This is manifestation, because often what we expect is what we get.

People upset about Nazis are making people who are Nazis lash out even more than they probably would be otherwise, and this is just how simple feedback loops of anger and human emotions work.
Therefore, when we try to inspire people to "stop" nazis by talking and posting everywhere about punching nazis, we are actually only going to invite and incite more trouble from these groups. Sure; some Nazis would get scared and back down, but others are reckless, overbearing and stupid (just like any sample group of people would be). Enough are the latter that the response might be difficult or dangerous. Dragging people up out of their hidey holes to participate in a fight is not going to result in a good situation before it gets worse first. We need to show disapproval for racism in some other way. The way we are doing it now creates too much backlash.

Forgiveness is needed in order to fix feedback loops, but it also isn't realistic to make us forget because we do need to be concerned for our well-being and survival on many levels, self all the way to society. Therefore, forgiving but not forgetting is ideal because then we can protect ourselves, but without letting our emotions put us into riskier situations.

We are literally being (click)baited into a war.. by whom or what, I don't know, but if we take a look at the influences in the situation, that should give us a clue. Remaining neutral and skeptical, and most of all open-minded and compassionate, is the only way we can avoid setting off this chain reaction of violence. Everyone believes that they are doing what's right, but its time that we used our logic and awareness of the bigger picture in order to overcome the strong responses to our emotions of fear, bitterness and vengefulness.